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 Posted - 09/23/2007 : 13:26:15
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Dear Members,
Research has shown that mistrust of friends is often a problem in both schizophrenia and depression.
Mistrust of Friends is defined as:
Doesn’t trust his/her friends, or doubts that he/she can rely on them. Could you please tell our community if mistrust of friends was part of your schizophrenia, and what made this better or worse.
Your comments will greatly help others facing these same problems.
Phil Long M.D.
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| firebird
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Posted - 09/23/2007 : 16:25:49
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| I can trust my friends. People I have known and come to rely on. But trust for me takes time to develop. I have no problem with trust but people have to earn it. |
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| Matt1981
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Posted - 09/24/2007 : 23:52:42
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| I just have problems trusting people because I've found a lot of people I've trusted I shouldn't have. I'm kinda on the cynical side. |
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| peewee
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Posted - 09/27/2007 : 06:09:28
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| I struggle with trust because I've had alot of negative words spoken over my life by family and encouraging me to change my ways that to me is a form of rejection because this illness caused so much rejection against me in my mind and to have someone say it to you face to face is more than one can handle. I suffered rejection from friends and had people talk behind my back during my illness. So I don't trust people. I would like to look at a person in the eyes and be able to judge if that person is sincere or not with me but I do allow for human weakness because I am too human with weakness and I try to look at the situation from their point of view first before I become judgmental and assume that I am always right. People I don't trust I don't make an effort to get into their good books, I prove them wrong by changing for the better - where it leaves them is not my problem. |
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| Linden_Rose
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Posted - 11/05/2007 : 12:32:52
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I have some trouble in trusting people who are kind to me. I always
think that they are just faking it. When my paranoia occasionally gets worse, I go to the point of even being afraid of nice people.
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| FinkPloyd
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Posted - 12/22/2007 : 02:23:03
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Really? I like kind people, its the controlling/demanding type people that I cant stand. Anyone who can understand that Im a lsitener and not a talker is alright in my books.
Outspoken people are always dodgey, like theyre continuously talking to cover something up. I find anyone with high self esteem to be very untrustable, its also a fact that most criminals regard themselves in high esteem.
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| Jonathan90125
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Posted - 12/22/2007 : 12:36:36
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On the contrary my family always told me I had a naive trust in people particularly the shrinks regarding sexual thoughts at private times. |
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| Shawn6294
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Posted - 12/28/2007 : 12:45:59
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| yeah, sure I have problems trusting friends/acquaintences but I got burned a bunch of x in the past so I guess it was all just a lesson learned in life I try not to be paranoid though just cautious. |
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| Mike412
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Posted - 11/16/2008 : 08:50:46
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Well, they say you've gotta be a friend to make a friend-I don't know I've had some pretty lousy friends-people who I thought we're my friends anyways but they ended up betraying me or I came to realize they weren't really my friends, don't have many friends anymore, it's hard for me to trust people, I get lonely and it bothers me, I wish I had some good friends, ones that aren't 2faced and all that, it's hard for me meeting new people though.
"When there's enough writing on the wall the wall's gonna come tumbling down" |
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| Tommy C.
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Posted - 08/24/2009 : 20:00:35
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| I don't trust my friends. I have no reason not to trust them. They are perfectly nice people. I do not own a cell phone because I don't want people calling me. Saving the money is nice, but the money isn't the reason why. |
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| fleurette
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Posted - 09/08/2011 : 19:15:53
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I do sometimes doubt that I can rely on my friends when the time comes that I'm in urgent need of a sounding board for ideas and/or just time spent together. But a few friends have proved to be faithful and enduring.
My past experience has been that friends call you when you also call them and the same goes for email. No one wants to just listen or keep giving without the reciprication.
I think if we take people at face value and believe their good intentions until they show us otherwise, we will not have as much mistrust of friends.
My cousin wrote this on a card of mine years ago, I'm going to quote it.
"Friendship is a priceless gift,
that cannot be brought or sold
But it's value is far greater than
a mountain made of gold.
For gold is cold and lifeless,
it can neither see nor hear,
and in our times of trouble,
it is powerless to cheer
It has no ears to listen
nor heart to understand.
It cannot bring you comfort,
or reach out a helping hand
So when you ask God for a gift
be thankful if He sends,
not diamonds, pearls or riches
But the love of real true friends! "
I hope that we all can have at least one "real true friend".
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| khaz
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Posted - 09/09/2011 : 15:29:06
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I have no friends because I trust no one...when you parents have shafted you it makes it very difficult.
Friends ar gifts you give yourself... |
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| aspierob
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Posted - 09/10/2011 : 00:41:12
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I'm with you Khaz , when you have been hurt as bad as i was its hard to trust anyone . I too have no friends and dont want any
there is a fine line between genius and insanity , if you can learn to walk the line , you can rule the world .unfortunately i keep falling into the insanity side |
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| warbird
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| warbird
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| warbird
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Do You Have Problems With Mistrust of Friends?
