J Anine
Starting Member
1 Posts |
Posted - 09/24/2006 : 09:43:45
|
Hello, I recently began taking anti depressants to manage my moods and am very happy with the results - except that it slowed down my sex drive. I never found myself in the mood anymore, which wasn't that much of a problem for me since I wasn't in the mood but my husband was upset. I went back to my doctor, who recommended some reading. In one of the books she recommended, it discussed being 'in the mood' as a concept that had nothing to do with reality (speaking for women). It promoted the idea of 'deciding' when you wanted to be in the mood and 'encouraging' your mood to be sexual. It's so simple but I had never even thought about this before. Put myself in the mood? It's almost so easy that it is insulting. There are different things for different people to put themselves in the mood. I found the most effective thing for me was to read erotic fantasies. There are many books out there, literally for every taste level. I find reading about other women's fantasies (such as Nancy Friday's fantasy logs) or reading fantasy stories (Enchanted by Nancy Madore has one for every type) puts me in the mood every time. Now my husband, literally, reads me a 'bedtime story' when we go to bed! It works like a charm. I know there are probably more serious cases out there (health wise) for women and men who have a low sex drive due to health and/or drugs, and I don't want to minimize those problems, but has anyone else considered this? Instead of worrying over the fact that your sex drive is lowered, could something put you in the mood? I literally had gone months without sex before I thought of this (with the help of my doctor and books)  |
|