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Freestar
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 Posted - 02/05/2007 : 07:22:46
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Stress and worry, heart ache, lack of support, being the youngest of a large family, and pregnancy/childbirth.
She did have to deal with alot in her younger years and i know they played a large part in the onset of schizophrenia.
She became pregnant and the family said she would have to give him up. I can only imagine how horrible that must have been: to have your right to make decisions taken away (And your beautiful new born baby).
I think they were able to have that power over her because she was the youngest and so was used to being told what to do by everyone above her.
It makes me so angry that they did that to her and she felt unable to stand up to them.
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| e-pea
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Posted - 02/16/2007 : 05:28:20
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She has you now and I believe you make all the difference in the world. You may not realize it and she may not acknowledge it right now.
I think if she could say it now, i know she'd tell you it was all worth it to have you in her life. We don't say it enough and often we push back at those who try to help us but in the end, support from someone who we know truly loves and cares for us makes a huge difference and helps us to feel safe, comfortable and loved.
They always say the oldest in a big family carries the responsibility but I believe there is another kind of responsibility and pain to also being the youngest. The youngest often never has a voice that doesn't come from someone older and they often have to fight for their own voice to carry as much importance. It is harder to find your own personality when you are the youngest. Being the youngest in a big family is not easy. Plus all she has had to deal with on top of that.. dear lady. I hope she is doing well..
How are you?
love.. pea
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| Freestar
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Posted - 02/20/2007 : 04:45:07
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Hi e-pea,
I'm fine thanks, it really is helping me to express my thoughts on sz and hear the thoughts of others affected. What you said is very true, i know some other ppl who are youngests too and all seem to have difficulties establishing themselves as strong independant ppl. Crazy how our place in the family has such an impact on others and ourselves. Its made me more aware of how i sometimes smother my brother because i want him to do something a certain way, not because i want to control him but because i want him to benefit from my experience.
My mother is doing really well these days, especially since i have moved out so it's a bit of adjusting for us all. Don't worry i'm not far away at all and still regularly see eachother. I think it will be good though, force us both to do things for ourselves not eachother if you know what i mean.
I hope you are keeping well too.
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| Krish
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Posted - 04/04/2007 : 04:34:46
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Dear Freestar,
I fully agree with you the reasons you have told for causation of sz. May be i am an example in which almost all the conditions you have mentioned are met. You have used a word "power" and lot of psychological trouble are woven around that. When i submitted to the authority (parents, institution etc) or power over me to such an extent that i have become a powerless ego that all psyche problems turned up surfacing in me. Retaining the sense of ego or i ness i believe is most essential like physical life depends upon food. When that is lost a door way is opened for SZ.
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| aspierob
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Posted - 11/25/2008 : 12:38:50
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| im sorry to hear that freestar , i my dad died when i was 7 , and my mom went away for almost 5 years , i didnt get to see her , and when she came back , she was like a zombie (this was in the 1960s ) my grandparents raised me , its not easy being without a mom , my own kids have to deal with that too , as my wife left me with 4 kids , two teenagers, and two babies , 7 years ago , because crack was more important than her kids :( maybe thats why im so resistant to psychiatrists and hospitals , i dont want them not to have a parent around . and yes , i do try to teach my kids to be strong , and not get pushed around by others . anyway , i hope things are going well now for you and your mom |
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...as i see it for my mother
