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 Posted - 02/17/2008 : 12:05:10
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Dear Members,
Research has shown that difficulty handling conflict is often a problem in both schizophrenia and depression.
Difficulty Handling Conflict is defined as:
Finds it hard to handle conflict, disruptive individuals or disciplinary problems. Could you please tell our community if difficulty handling conflict was part of your schizophrenia, and what made this better or worse.
Your comments will greatly help others facing these same problems.
Phil Long M.D.
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| Jayster
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Posted - 02/17/2008 : 17:18:52
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| I learned early on not to sacrifice a principle for approbation. Conflict is really hard, however. |
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| Linden_Rose
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Posted - 02/18/2008 : 18:14:35
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I have a similar problem to difficulty handling conflict. When I am at home, and my mother or sister criticizes me, I get frustrated easily. It stresses me out a lot. More so than I think the average person reacts. |
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| jane_m
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Posted - 02/25/2008 : 06:16:41
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| I can't take critizism. It just stresses me out now and makes thing worst. I add lemon to my tea and my mother says to me why to you always have to add no much lemon to your tea and I replied why do you always have to critize me. Then she left to exercise class and I usually drive her. I then got real paranoid that she really went to have me committed again because of a little arguement. Not even a real agrument. My father then left and didn't come back for a long time and I was alone. My sister lives nest door and a truck pulled up to her house and I though for sure it was someone from social services or the court to committ me. She went to court and committed me before. I ran over there and it was the county well inspector counting wells. My father came home he went to by his favorite shampoo. Then my mother came home from exercise and the store. I calmed down. I try to make no conflict at all. |
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| Jayster
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Posted - 02/26/2008 : 16:48:14
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Schizophrenics find criticism hard because it sticks in their craw. I surely cannot digest much criticism, although sometimes it rolls off.
Jayster |
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| jo73
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Posted - 05/29/2008 : 12:28:06
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| i am the same sometimes i can take critizism but most of the time i carnt and i get really stressed and angry at the people for saying it to me, so i just try to blot them out like they arnt there |
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| synapse
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Posted - 06/02/2008 : 23:36:13
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| I really do believe the research about how the mother and/or father being critical towards the child has an adverse effect on people with schizophrenia. In fact I would go as far as saying these type of parents go along way towards causing/excerbrating the illness. It can be hard accepting this fact that your own flesh and blood can cause such misery/heartache. I recently got married and my wife has all too often pointed this out in our relationship that my mum is jealous and would go as far as seeing us split up. It also fits in with the understanding that as one gets older the illness lessens as you don't have parents around who are unloving aand uncaring to interfer in your day -to-day life. You feel a sense of freedom. |
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| Fruitcup (inactive)
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Posted - 06/03/2008 : 00:01:57
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Prior to receiving medication I would become paranoid, agitated, angry and create conflict.Now I simply don't enter into conflicts....I walk away, my health is far more important.
Sue
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| Hoppy
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Posted - 06/07/2008 : 17:42:09
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I do not know how to handle conflict, especially if someone tries to hurt me or the things or persons that I love, it triggers me. I become angry. And then, the whole scene triggers me later. So I have to totally remove myself from the place of conflict.
I have many conflicts with myself. What usually works for this is reading fiction and entering another world. |
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| jane_m
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Posted - 08/05/2008 : 16:14:20
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| In conflict all I end up doing is crying all the time. I can't make people understand. They just have there minds made up already. |
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| hercules21
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Posted - 04/17/2009 : 21:32:16
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I am not comfortable with conflict and am terrible with negotiations.
It is not related to my illness though just an ongoing personality trait. I quit a job recently in part because I was unfairly criticised and I didn't stick up for myself assertively.
I have been committed once - and immediately after being released I was in fair of upsetting anyone in case it lead to a repeat visit. But over the years this passed. I don't worry about it anymore. |
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| sopater
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Posted - 01/07/2010 : 22:57:30
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Handling conflict for me has a lot to do with
my emotions prior to the situation of conflict.
If I've been crying a lot and basically losing
control of my emotions, then I break down in a
situation of conflict. But if I'm stoic and adamant
prior to the conflict, then I handle myself better
in a situation of conflict.  |
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| alexanderfoote
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Posted - 06/11/2011 : 17:37:53
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Dear Dr. Long,
I have browsed these "Schizophrenia: Social Behaviors" threads just now and had a question for you: could you direct me to the research for three of these threads? For each one you stated that there is research behind the respective problems in schizophrenia. The topics I'd like to track down the research for are:
-Difficulty Handling Conflict
-Lack of Empathy
-Pessimism
I'm schizophrenic and have all of these problems. I've read books on schizophrenia and remember only limited discussion about these problems. Are there articles or papers or books that go into these concerns in depth?
Very much appreciate your help.
-Alexander |
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| warbird
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| warbird
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| warbird
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Do You Have Difficulty Handling Conflict?
